Don’t touch my belly!


Why the staring?

Since becoming pregnant, people have started to act incredibly strangely. I have started to show, but it is unbelievable the amount of people (strangers and customers at work included) that will stare at my tummy, whether they are talking to me or not. I find that it makes me incredibly uncomfortable; it’s as if they’ve never seen a pregnant person before!

And the touching!

Now this really makes me crazy. The first time someone touched my tummy after I became pregnant was when I was on holiday. I wasn’t even showing, so the guy was basically poking my abs. He was our activity instructor, and he felt that it was okay to poke me in the tummy with his pen whilst talking about my pregnancy. I wish I’d taken the pen and shoved it up his nose. Some people have even found it okay to grab my tummy with both hands. The last time someone went to do it, I just said firmly, “don’t touch me”. It really isn’t okay. I’ve started to try and hide my growing tummy as I am fed up with all the unwanted touching and staring.

“Oh, it must be because you’re pregnant.”

This is a great one. Literally everything that happens to me and everything that I say and do is now apparently because I’m pregnant; I’m cold: it’s because you’re pregnant. I’m hot:ditto. I walked faster than usual to work as it was so windy outside one morning, and I wanted to be out of the rain. My colleague’s response to this was, no, it wasn’t because of the weather; I walked faster because pregnancy weighs me down.  Which doesn’t even make sense.

I’m eating for two now. (Well, not really.)

If I am to be seen eating a sandwich for my lunch, co-workers will comment, “Ah, you’re eating more now because you’re eating for two.” Actually, I was eating a sandwich as I was on my lunch break and was hungry.

“How are you feeling? You look tired.”

It’s great how the first thing that people will say to me is something negative about my appearance, usually about how tired I look. Or they will open the conversation by asking how I’m feeling, as if they expect me to be ‘suffering’ from pregnancy. Even when I try to get us off the subject of pregnancy, somehow the said person will bring us right back to their favourite topic. Pretty boring.

I am not ill, and pregnancy is not a miracle. Many women have done it before, and whilst I am happy to be pregnant, it was never my life’s ambition to become pregnant, and it is a shame that I am becoming defined by it. I understand that others want to show their happiness for me, but some of their behaviour is incredibly irritating.

I really don’t  mean to offend people and I realise that some women are the complete opposite to me and love to be showered with attention when they are pregnant, but I am still the same person I was before and continue to have the same interests. I have to admit, yes I do love attention, but not because of the size of my stomach.

Does anyone else feel the same?


Mum’s Delicious Filipino Curry

Since becoming pregnant I have found that there are not many meals that don’t leave me feeling nauseous. One thing that I still absolutely love is my mum’s chicken curry.


It is so tasty yet relatively low in fat, and goes great with thai jasmine rice and green salad. Apart from peas , vegetables are not added to the curry as they tend to spoil it. I so look forward to it when I’m visiting my parents for a break from London! Here I share the recipe with you.

Recipe (serves 4-6)

Chicken thigh and drumsticks (not boneless)
1 medium onion
3 cloves of garlic crushed
1/4 tsp ginger powder
4 tbsp tomato puree
4 tsp hot curry powder (add water to make into a paste)
1 tsp toasted sesame oil
1 pinch coriander powder
1/2 tsp soy sauce
1/2 tsp garam masala
3 oxo sized coconut cream blocks
1/2 cup garden peas
season to taste


  1. On a medium heat, saute the onion, garlic and ginger.
  2. Add tomato puree. When this starts to bubble, add the curry powder and cook until a paste is formed.
  3. Wash the chicken in running water and put straight into the pan (do not remove the excess water from chicken).
  4. Add two pinches of salt. Turn up the heat until ingredients start to boil.
  5. Add soy sauce, coriander, sesame oil and then stir. Turn heat down to simmering. Cover the pan.
  6. After 10-15 minutes, stir and add the coconut. Do not stir again and do not cover. Increase the heat a little.
  7. When the coconut has melted, stir. Add the peas, simmer and then cover.
  8. When chicken is cooked, bring to a quick boil and remove from heat.
  9. Add garam masala, stir, and then serve.



Maternity style?

I am finding it incredibly hard to dress in the same style as I did pre-pregnancy. I used to buy most of my clothes from American Apparel and Urban Outfitters and would normally wear high-waisted shorts, skirts and jeans with cropped tops.

My pre-pregnancy style

I now feel frumpy and unfashionable. This isn’t the end of the world, I know, but I no longer feel like me. I just feel like a nauseous fat person. I scavenged Topshop Maternity, who’s maternity section is absolutely tiny, with a selection of dark coloured items in boring styles. Completely unimaginative. Yet some of the items fit me so I bought them. I didn’t really have much of a choice, as Urban Outfitters and American Apparel do not stock maternity wear (at least not in the UK) and the shops that do stock in the UK are not really my cup of tea (think Gap, New Look…) and only hold their stock online. I honestly believe that their are no decent fashionable maternity lines; most of them look to me like they are for older mums, or those who don’t particularly care what they look like and would simply like comfort.

I can still just about fit into some of my regular clothes…

Whilst I know that it would be pretty difficult for a pair of high-waisted jeans to stay up on a pregnant tummy, it would be great to see some fresher takes on stylish maternity clothes than what is currently available in the UK!